Pastor Tom Deuschle , Senior Pastor of Celebration Ministries shared this teaching on
Common destructive communication traits that also apply to families and parenting.
1.Silence- silence in a family is a destructive thing. It's a guarantee of prolonged problems. Giving each other the silent treatment does not resolve anything and only decreases intimacy between spouses and parents and children .
2. Verbal abuse - name calling , intimidation and verbal onslaughts between spouses and also between parents and children will affect the family.
Children need praise , consistent support and should be disciplined in love. Many parents are trying achieve through verbal bullying instead of careful nurturing
3.Manipulation - of spouse or children or extended family for own benefit is destructive to the family
4: Erratic and inconsistent behavior . Spouses and children don't know what to expect from you.This causes mistrust and insecurity .
5: Dishonesty - family communication should be honest above all and deal in truth and with reality. Honesty is essential in busing harmony . Reasons why parents are dishonest id because it's the easy way out or are in denial .
6: Keeping secrets - this is destructive . Sexual, spousal abuse, violence to children should not be kept a secret and need to seek outside help. Successful families honour confidentiality but expose abuses and harmful behaviors.
Happy and successful families talk ! They are able to communicate and resolve conflict in a positive manner. Communication brings intimacy into a relationship. Through words hearts and minds connect. Children need their parents to talk to them , they need to hear positive words , they need to be affirmed and they need their questions to be answered as with as much truth and honesty,
