Pastor Tom Deuschle , Senior Pastor of Celebration Ministries shared this teaching on
Common destructive communication traits that also apply to families and parenting.
1.Silence- silence in a family is a destructive thing. It's a guarantee of prolonged problems. Giving each other the silent treatment does not resolve anything and only decreases intimacy between spouses and parents and children .
2. Verbal abuse - name calling , intimidation and verbal onslaughts between spouses and also between parents and children will affect the family.
Children need praise , consistent support and should be disciplined in love. Many parents are trying achieve through verbal bullying instead of careful nurturing
3.Manipulation - of spouse or children or extended family for own benefit is destructive to the family
4: Erratic and inconsistent behavior . Spouses and children don't know what to expect from you.This causes mistrust and insecurity .
5: Dishonesty - family communication should be honest above all and deal in truth and with reality. Honesty is essential in busing harmony . Reasons why parents are dishonest id because it's the easy way out or are in denial .
6: Keeping secrets - this is destructive . Sexual, spousal abuse, violence to children should not be kept a secret and need to seek outside help. Successful families honour confidentiality but expose abuses and harmful behaviors.
Happy and successful families talk ! They are able to communicate and resolve conflict in a positive manner. Communication brings intimacy into a relationship. Through words hearts and minds connect. Children need their parents to talk to them , they need to hear positive words , they need to be affirmed and they need their questions to be answered as with as much truth and honesty,
Common destructive communication traits that also apply to families and parenting.
1.Silence- silence in a family is a destructive thing. It's a guarantee of prolonged problems. Giving each other the silent treatment does not resolve anything and only decreases intimacy between spouses and parents and children .
2. Verbal abuse - name calling , intimidation and verbal onslaughts between spouses and also between parents and children will affect the family.
Children need praise , consistent support and should be disciplined in love. Many parents are trying achieve through verbal bullying instead of careful nurturing
3.Manipulation - of spouse or children or extended family for own benefit is destructive to the family
4: Erratic and inconsistent behavior . Spouses and children don't know what to expect from you.This causes mistrust and insecurity .
5: Dishonesty - family communication should be honest above all and deal in truth and with reality. Honesty is essential in busing harmony . Reasons why parents are dishonest id because it's the easy way out or are in denial .
6: Keeping secrets - this is destructive . Sexual, spousal abuse, violence to children should not be kept a secret and need to seek outside help. Successful families honour confidentiality but expose abuses and harmful behaviors.
Happy and successful families talk ! They are able to communicate and resolve conflict in a positive manner. Communication brings intimacy into a relationship. Through words hearts and minds connect. Children need their parents to talk to them , they need to hear positive words , they need to be affirmed and they need their questions to be answered as with as much truth and honesty,
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